How I Stopped Being Obsessed With Food and Exercise


This blog post is a bit different. It’s in the form of a letter, because it actually is a letter. I wrote this in response to an email I received recently from a member of this community who was reaching out for help. Despite all her best intentions to eat well, exercise appropriately, and live well, she can’t help but feel lost— stuck in habits of getting in her own way, second guessing her knowledge of proper nutrition, comparing herself to others who seem to live so effortlessly separated from health drama while she obsesses over every little thing and disguises it with self-conscious confidence.

Well let me tell you— your obsession with food and exercise actually has nothing to do with food and exercise.

As I read her letter, I felt this overwhelming feeling that I was reading my own thoughts— or at least, my former self’s thoughts. The response that poured out of me was like writing a letter to my past self. Coming to the realization that I share below was quite literally a miracle that changed my life, and so I felt called to share it with all who cares to read it— in it’s raw form. If this resonates with you, I hope it helps you make some mindset shifts to get you out of the fog and onto your path <3

Hi babe!

Wow. I honestly can't even express how much it means to me to hear that my channel has helped you to grow and make strides toward your goals and mindset shifts. I know it wasn't easy for you to share all those things with me, and I honestly believe that being open about them and getting those thoughts, feelings, and emotions out into the universe is such an integral process in any healing journey. Thank you for being open and vulnerable and honoring yourself in that way. 

I want you to know that I COMPLETELY understand where you are. Like exactly. And trust me when I say, you will get through this and be all the stronger for it.

And I too found P.volve through stalking Victoria’s Secret models-- I'm not gonna lie about that lol. I used to make all my decisions the same way (seeing what they did/ate). But whats funny is that I haven't really done that ever since I left my old job and began pursuing what makes me happy. When you put your focus towards doing what you love, that suddenly takes precedent and you just get in the zone. You don't fixate on food or what other people are eating or how they're exercising because you don't have TIME! All that time and energy wasted is now put towards your passion, and then you really are forced to just cut out the noise and toxic thoughts.

From there I just started listening to what my body wants and what makes me motivated, both movement and otherwise. I get motivated to do P.volve and Yoga and Melissa Wood workouts and occasional jogs, not because I'm fearful of what will happen if I don't, but because they make me feel energized, empowered, strong, and I get genuinely excited to do them. And if there's a day when I'm not in the mood, I don't force it. I let it be, I meditate instead or listen to a podcast or read or work on my business (ie-- make sure I'm doing something else productive instead) because those things also make me feel energized, empowered, strong and genuinely excited. 

Are you sensing a theme here? This idea that hyper-focus on food and exercise is a means of ESCAPING what I really need to focus on and change, which for me was my career and how I spent 60 hours a week not actually doing what I felt connected to.  

This is what made me want to be a health coach. That realization right there. and it's exactly what I work on with my clients (they may think they're coming to me for diet advice, but it quickly turns to other topics, as they could attest to :P )

I hope that was helpful my dear. Please know you're not alone, and I'm here for you!